I meant to update this days ago, but I’ve been busy with the holiday shopping and having the boys home 24/7 and all that. We had the appointment to get Jonah tested this past Friday, 12/16. I wasn’t sure how long it would take, but I figured Jonah would make it to school somewhere near lunchtime. When I called in the morning to let the school know he would be late they told me that 11:45 was the cut-off. Meaning that even if he showed up after that that he would be counted as absent. And that’s how it ended up. We got to the psychologists office at 9:30am as scheduled and didn’t get out until 1:30pm. Even though we were, apparently, her only appointment that day it took her a little while to get the testing started. She had a playroom with lots of neat toys that she let him “warm up” in at first as Joe and me filled out all the paperwork she gave us. She eventually took him into her office while we still filled stuff out. He got a break after about 45mins, but eventually was taken back in to finish the testing. After things were over she asked us to stay as she put the info into her computer. Long story short, the child is “gifted” as they call it. It’s quite likely that he misbehaves because he is bored and unchallenged. His IQ is 137! She pulled up a couple different numbers. Age-wise he is in the 80-90 percentile. Grade-wise he is in the 95-99.8 percentile. We are still waiting for the official report, but once we get it we are supposed to go to the school and advocate to have him put into advanced classes. She mentioned that in other states, because of the age grade cut-off, he would actually be in 1st grade, but because Florida’s cut-off is September 1st he is stuck in Kindergarten. Basically, he is bored and unchallenged and Joe and I have some work to do. I will update after the new year after we talk to the school.
So, we took Jonah to see his pediatrician on Monday morning. It went well. She was a little confused that I had never mentioned any issues to her before, and I had to explain that I didn’t much see it as a big issue that he wouldn’t grow out of. Understood. She went on to say that she in no way thinks, at this point, that Jonah has any ODD, ADD, ADHD, or any other such condition that would need medication. She did say that a psycho-educational evaluation would be a very good idea. She mentioned that, in her experience, when kids are antsy and disruptive it is because they are bored and unchallenged. It happened with all three of her kids, she had them all tested, and it turns out they are all “gifted”. She believes it is possible that Jonah is just beyond the work being given to him in class. Come Friday, we shall see. We got an appointment with one of the docs that his pediatrician recommended, and are eager to hear the results…whatever they may be. At least it’s a step in the right direction. Tomorrow is his first day back to school since his suspension, and I’m hoping it goes well. I will update again on Friday or Saturday. 🙂
Well, the good news is that Noah had a great first day at his new school. He loved his teacher, already made some friends, and overall had a great day. Typical Noah – easygoing and highly adaptable. Then, there was Jonah. I get a call while waiting in the pick-up line from the principal, and she proceeds to tell me that he is in her office, has assaulted (her word) two teachers, and is being suspended for three days. I pulled out of the line, parked my car, gathered Noah, and headed to the office. His teacher is also in the principal’s office. She tells me that she was having the kids line up to go inside after recess, but Jonah wouldn’t line up. He wanted to stay and play. She knelt down to him to explain that they needed to go inside to do a project, so he hit her in her mouth (not very hard, she had no injury of any kind). Another teacher came over to assist and he began kicking and screaming. All inexcusable behavior. They managed to wrestle him onto a nearby golf cart and get him to the office where they called me. I just don’t understand where all of his defiance comes from. He is treated very well, and given lots of love and attention. He does get spankings when one is warranted, but nothing is taken overboard. I’m just so confused. Now, I do not regret taking him out of the Christian school. I think that as the leader of a Christian school and in charge of enforcing a Christian curriculum and Christian life, you should not be making promises to a child and his parents, who clearly all need some help, that you don’t intend to keep. That’s called lying. And I was tired of paying their crazy tuition, anyway. And, of course, I’m not naive, I didn’t expect that changing schools would suddenly change Jonah into the perfect angel, but I NEVER expected him to take it to this level. EVER. At the most, I expected him to display the strong will that caused problems at the private school, and that the public school – that has more resources on hand – would take the necessary steps to help us help him. But, he never even gave them the chance. So, we have given in and made an appointment to see his pediatrician on Monday to ask her what sort of treatment/s could help him. Even medication. This has gone too far, and I give up. Clearly, everything that we are doing simply is not working, and it’s time to bring in the professionals. I hate even having to say that. 😦
We recently decided to pull our boys out of the private school they were going to, and send them to the public school across the street. It was not an easy decision, but a necessary one. We just didn’t feel like they were taking the proper steps to curb Jonah’s behavior issues. A month or so ago we had a parent/teacher/principal conference in which many ideas were brought up. Joe and I did every task that was given to us, but neither the principal nor the teacher did even one thing they said that they would do. They just kept pushing for the testing/medication instead of trying other avenues first. We just absolutely disagreed with that, and were very disappointed. It also seemed like Jonah’s teacher didn’t much like him, and she kept comparing him to her own son who she had put right on medication when he was younger. She just couldn’t seem to get past the fact that this was not her kid. So, we have been making the transition over the last couple of days. Today is their first official day at the new school. I have to say I really liked their teachers, and feel pretty good about the change. It’s new, and a little nerve-wracking, but I’m sure it will all be fine. Wish us luck! 🙂
I also finally had my stillbirth follow-up appointment yesterday. I was supposed to go in two weeks after being released from the hospital, but at first I didn’t get called back, then we played phone tag for over a week, then my original appointment had to be postponed because the doc had to be at the hospital, and then I totally spaced that appointment, so I FINALLY got in yesterday. LOL!! Long story short, My doc thinks I may have an incompetent cervix, and if (WHEN!) I get pregnant again that he will do a couple early ultrasounds to measure my cervix to see if I might need a stitch put in. So, if you have been praying for us please keep it up. We are officially trying to conceive again, and could use all the prayers we can get. 🙂