Jonah’s Testing

I meant to update this days ago, but I’ve been busy with the holiday shopping and having the boys home 24/7 and all that.  We had the appointment to get Jonah tested this past Friday, 12/16.  I wasn’t sure how long it would take, but I figured Jonah would make it to school somewhere near lunchtime.  When I called in the morning to let the school know he would be late they told me that 11:45 was the cut-off.  Meaning that even if he showed up after that that he would be counted as absent.  And that’s how it ended up.  We got to the psychologists office at 9:30am as scheduled and didn’t get out until 1:30pm.  Even though we were, apparently, her only appointment that day it took her a little while to get the testing started.  She had a playroom with lots of neat toys that she let him “warm up” in at first as Joe and me filled out all the paperwork she gave us.  She eventually took him into her office while we still filled stuff out.  He got a break after about 45mins, but eventually was taken back in to finish the testing.  After things were over she asked us to stay as she put the info into her computer.  Long story short, the child is “gifted” as they call it.  It’s quite likely that he misbehaves because he is bored and unchallenged.  His IQ is 137!   She pulled up a couple different numbers.  Age-wise he is in the 80-90 percentile.  Grade-wise he is in the 95-99.8 percentile.  We are still waiting for the official report, but once we get it we are supposed to go to the school and advocate to have him put into advanced classes.   She mentioned that in other states, because of the age grade cut-off, he would actually be in 1st grade, but because Florida’s cut-off is September 1st he is stuck in Kindergarten.  Basically, he is bored and unchallenged and Joe and I have some work to do.  I will update after the new year after we talk to the school.



Small Update on Jonah

So, we took Jonah to see his pediatrician on Monday morning.  It went well.  She was a little confused that I had never mentioned any issues to her before, and I had to explain that I didn’t much see it as a big issue that he wouldn’t grow out of.  Understood.  She went on to say that she in no way thinks, at this point, that Jonah has any ODD, ADD, ADHD, or any other such condition that would need medication.  She did say that a psycho-educational evaluation would be a very good idea.  She mentioned that, in her experience, when kids are antsy and disruptive it is because they are bored and unchallenged.  It happened with all three of her kids, she had them all tested, and it turns out they are all “gifted”.  She believes it is possible that Jonah is just beyond the work being given to him in class.  Come Friday, we shall see.  We got an appointment with one of the docs that his pediatrician recommended, and are eager to hear the results…whatever they may be.  At least it’s a step in the right direction.  Tomorrow is his first day back to school since his suspension, and I’m hoping it goes well.  I will update again on Friday or Saturday.  🙂

Not the Day We Expected. :(

Well, the good news is that Noah had a great first day at his new school.  He loved his teacher, already made some friends, and overall had a great day.  Typical Noah – easygoing and highly adaptable.  Then, there was Jonah.  I get a call while waiting in the pick-up line from the principal, and she proceeds to tell me that he is in her office, has assaulted (her word) two teachers, and is being suspended for three days.  I pulled out of the line, parked my car, gathered Noah, and headed to the office.  His teacher is also in the principal’s office.  She tells me that she was having the kids line up to go inside after recess, but Jonah wouldn’t line up.  He wanted to stay and play.  She knelt down to him to explain that they needed to go inside to do a project, so he hit her in her mouth (not very hard, she had no injury of any kind).  Another teacher came over to assist and he began kicking and screaming.  All inexcusable behavior.  They managed to wrestle him onto a nearby golf cart and get him to the office where they called me.  I just don’t understand where all of his defiance comes from.  He is treated very well, and given lots of love and attention.  He does get spankings when one is warranted, but nothing is taken overboard.  I’m just so confused.  Now, I do not regret taking him out of the Christian school.  I think that as the leader of a Christian school and in charge of enforcing a Christian curriculum and Christian life, you should not be making promises to a child and his parents, who clearly all need some help, that you don’t intend to keep.  That’s called lying.  And I was tired of paying their crazy tuition, anyway.  And, of course, I’m not naive, I didn’t expect that changing schools would suddenly change Jonah into the perfect angel, but I NEVER expected him to take it to this level.  EVER.  At the most, I expected him to display the strong will that caused problems at the private school, and that the public school – that has more resources on hand – would take the necessary steps to help us help him.  But, he never even gave them the chance.  So, we have given in and made an appointment to see his pediatrician on Monday to ask her what sort of treatment/s could help him.  Even medication.  This has gone too far, and I give up.  Clearly, everything that we are doing simply is not working, and it’s time to bring in the professionals.  I hate even having to say that.  😦

New School & Trying Again

We recently decided to pull our boys out of the private school they were going to, and send them to the public school across the street.  It was not an easy decision, but a necessary one.  We just didn’t feel like they were taking the proper steps to curb Jonah’s behavior issues.  A month or so ago we had a parent/teacher/principal conference in which many ideas were brought up.  Joe and I did every task that was given to us, but neither the principal nor the teacher did even one thing they said that they would do.  They just kept pushing for the testing/medication instead of trying other avenues first.  We just absolutely disagreed with that, and were very disappointed.  It also seemed like Jonah’s teacher didn’t much like him, and she kept comparing him to her own son who she had put right on medication when he was younger.  She just couldn’t seem to get past the fact that this was not her kid.  So, we have been making the transition over the last couple of days.  Today is their first official day at the new school.  I have to say I really liked their teachers, and feel pretty good about the change.  It’s new, and a little nerve-wracking, but I’m sure it will all be fine.  Wish us luck!  🙂 

I also finally had my stillbirth follow-up appointment yesterday.  I was supposed to go in two weeks after being released from the hospital, but at first I didn’t get called back, then we played phone tag for over a week, then my original appointment had to be postponed because the doc had to be at the hospital,  and then I totally spaced that appointment, so I FINALLY got in yesterday.  LOL!!  Long story short, My doc thinks I may have an incompetent cervix, and if (WHEN!) I get pregnant again that he will do a couple early ultrasounds to measure my cervix to see if I might need a stitch put in.  So, if you have been praying for us please keep it up.  We are officially trying to conceive again, and could use all the prayers we can get.  🙂

Giving Thanks

We had a great Thanksgiving today.  The weather was gorgeous, so we spent some time outside.  I got lucky photographing a newly hatched Monarch butterfly that had grown up on one of our milkweed plants.  I ended up with some beautiful shots.  Butterflies are one of my least favorite things to photograph.  Sure, they’re beautiful, but they just don’t know how to sit still.  This one had me running circles around my house because it kept flying over the roof from the front yard to the backyard, and then back to the front.    But still, I persisted.  I got some great shots, it eventually disappeared, so I headed back inside.

It was nice to spend time with my family.  The boys watched the Muppet movie marathon, and Joe cooked our Thanksgiving meal.  I went back and forth from watching with the boys (okay, I was mostly on my computer – but I was sitting with them), and helping Joe in the kitchen.  We ended up eating around 5:00pm, and it was delicious.  With my husband as the chef, the food is always good.  Turkey cooked in a brown bag, mirepoix veggies, garlic mashed potatoes, stuffing, gravy, and biscuits.  Oh, and dessert – a pumpkin spiced pudding pie made by me.  I’m full, and probably a couple of pounds heavier, but it was worth it.  🙂

     I am thankful for many things today and every day.  I won’t even try to list them all, but here are some big ones:  my husband, my children (all four of them), my friends, my family, God – for all He is and all that He does, my home, and all the other many blessings in my life.  I hope you all also had a wonderful Turkey Day.  God Bless!!!

     Now, a couple of pics of the Monarch butterfly:

God Is Still God

My new favorite song is ‘God Is Still God’ by Heather Williams.  The first time I heard it was a week after my stillbirth, and I literally felt like she was singing it TO me.  Just me and only me.  I cried, I smiled, I heard her.  I heard HIM.  It was amazing.  I heard the song at least two more times that day, and numerous times over the next few days.  It still feels like my song when I hear it.  It will always be a special song to me.

Getting better…slowly.

Every time I think I’m feeling better, doing better, something knocks me back.  It really doesn’t help that I have at least 7 FB friends who are pregnant and a few more with brand new babies.  It’s hard because I am so happy for all of them and would never wish my experience on them, but even through my joy for them it is painful to hear them talk about their pregnancy.  Hearing about the shopping or assembling of baby items.  Or the normal milestones of a pregnancy – movement (which I had felt, but only a couple of times), ultrasounds (especially the big gender scan), naming, even fetal hiccups, etc.  Everything I’m missing out on.  Everything I SHOULD be experiencing, but am not.  Why?  I know everything happens for a reason and that His plan isn’t the same as ours, but it’s hard to understand His reasons sometimes.  And some, like my story, may never be explained until we get to Heaven.  It’s just hard not knowing.  I dreamt of that baby.  I still do.  The dreams are different now, more haunting than hopeful, but it’s all I’ll know of him/her for a long time.  It’s all I have.

On a much lighter note, it’s been fun spending time with the family I have here.  Just over a week ago I took my boys to one of my favorite places – Marie Selby Botanical Gardens in Sarasota.  I used to be quite a gardener – I preferred containers over ground gardening -, but I’ve lost my touch since having kids.  Priorities.  So now, I live vicariously through the gardens at Selby.  The greenhouse is my favorite.  It’s where they keep a great majority of their orchids – my favorite flower.  The greenhouse is one of the smaller areas of the garden, but I spend the most time in there photographing the flowers.  The boys always try to rush me through, but I make them wait.  There’s just nothing like having a camera between my face and an orchid.  It’s good for my soul.  And though the greenhouse is my favorite place within my favorite place, the rest of the gardens definitely do not disappoint.  And being there with my boys is always fun.  There’s quite a few trees that they love to climb (the Banyans, the Moreton Bay Fig, and the Bo Tree), so we always have to stop and take a break from walking.  It’s okay with me.  I always find something to photograph – be it them, or some flowers, an insect, or the sky.  Anything.  Eventually we get moving again, and find some more fun and beautiful things to do and see.  Selby is right on the waters of Sarasota Bay.  There’s nothing more tranquil or soothing than a large body of water.  It’s awe-inspiring, and quickly makes us…well, me at least, feel small.  It kind of puts thing into perspective.  I always know the day is coming to an end when we get to the Selby Mansion & the Butterfly Garden.  I used to spend a lot of time trying to photograph the butterflies, but I have stopped stressing myself out like that.  They never sit still!  I end up angry at them, and that’s just silly.  🙂  SO now, I walk through, and if I get lucky, great!  This specific day, I did get lucky.  A Monarch butterfly just sat there and let me snap shot after shot.  It was awesome.  I even got lucky with some bumble bees.  Great day.  It turned out that my body wasn’t quite ready for such a long walk and all the twisting, squatting, and bending that goes along with photography because I ended up being a bit sore, but it was worth it.  I needed it, and the time with the boys was priceless.  Here’s a few pics I took:

Lip of a Cattleya orchid.

Ascocenda with back-lighting.

Jonah getting a koi nibble.

Noah under a huge Elephant Ear plant.

The boys on Selby’s big orchid.

Another fun family event was the family bike ride we took.  We have done it before, but it had been a while.  And before, we couldn’t be out long because Jonah’s stamina was…lacking.  LOL!!  Well, just a few days ago, we managed to ride 4mi. together as a family.  Joe and I were riding regular two-wheelers, but Noah and Jonah were riding their big wheels.  Those weren’t really meant for distance rides, but they did really well.  It was extremely fun, and I can’t wait to do it again soon.  🙂